Tuesday, August 26, 2014


I read a really great article today (found here) about keeping promises to yourself, and I couldn't agree more. I keep talking these big talks about getting healthy, losing weight, becoming more motivated, doing more with the blog, etc., but when it comes down to it, I lack the follow through. I do great for awhile, but my goals are always a little out of my realistic reach and I fall short and get overly discouraged.

Little attainable goals are great because when I hit them, I am encouraged to keep going and make another small attainable goal. This cycle continues until I can reach my big goal (this is seriously the only way I made it through my huge project at work this year, I took it one week at a time). Do I want to lose 20 pounds? Absolutely. Is that realistic at this moment? No. But, losing 5 pounds is. Consistently tracking my food on MFP (username bethjoy5) is easy, and my calorie goals are a lot more feasible than before. (Seriously, the site set me up with 1200 calories, no freakin way! I was always starving!) Now, I aim for between 1400-1600 for right now, as I get more consistent with my running and increase my mileage, I plan to up my calories as well. (There is such a thing as eating too little!)

Another attainable goal? Research things first, follow them second. Too many times I have hopped on board band-wagons of things that lasted about 5 minutes. My life is busy and my husband is picky. Whole30, Paleo and the like are not reasonable for me. Eating mostly whole clean foods as often as possible is easier and something I can get Julian to agree to. I am swapping white pasta for whole wheat. Guacamole for avocado. Regular peanut butter for natural. Little swaps that make a huge difference in the long run.

I am also realistic that some days are better than others. I was running late this morning so I didn't get a chance to pack lunch, but I had some snacks/breakfast ready to go and ran to Subway on my break. Turkey on wheat (no cheese) with tons of veggies and just a dollop of yellow mustard.

I am making promises to myself to take things one step at a time. To make healthy choices and to lose these first 5 pounds. If I can reach these for the month of September, I will be happy, and then I will re-evaluate and go from there. I want a family one day, and the best thing I can do for myself is to be in as healthy physically and mentally as I can be.

Monday, August 25, 2014


With the new house, I have had to become a bit more decisive on things. I can no longer just think, oh well it's only temporary. I have been trying to get the house put together, but it is taking much longer than I thought. Between trying to stick to a budget and being busy, we are still in boxes and don't have a lot of the things that we want/need. We have been very lucky that our parents have gifted us quite a few of the necessities (mower, washer/dryer, garage door opener).

So right now (when I am not working), my life is consisting of choosing curtains for the downstairs (I refuse to put up blinds and block out our natural light), picking out a new duvet cover for our bedroom, deciding on accent colors for each room (do I go with something bold for the living room or soft and calming?) and perusing Pinterest for hours on end. I realized that buying a house came with a lot of work, but I feel like it will be months if not a year before I get everything the way that I want it.
Contemporary Living Room Small Living Room Design. like colors, sectional, rug.
Something neutral and soothing like this
Objects of varying heights will give your living room some depth.
Or with bright pops of color like this?

My kitchen has pops of red (all to get with the bright red kitchen aid mixer of course) and the rest of the house is very neutral at the moment. Part of me wants to do something bright just to be different, but I don't know if it will be fun or just distracting.

In other news, I actually planned out my meals for this week and have a very healthy menu ready to go. And, I plan on running at least 3 days this week. Here is to finally getting into a better place. 

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Finding your groove again

Now that the move is over, and life is slowly getting back to normal, I am struggling to remember what normal is. I am also trying to find out what I want my "new normal" to be.

This past year at work has taken about every ounce of creativity out of me. Now that this "huge work project" is stabilizing, how do I go back to my normal day to day functions? The past 6 months have been full of house updates. Now that we are in the house, what's next?

I have had a million excuses this past year why I have been lazy in other parts of my life.
"Oh, do the laundry? But I just ran, I need a break."
"Cook healthy meals every day? but I am soooo tired from work."
"Unpack all of those boxes? But we are planning to buy a house in a year..."
Now, work is normal, the house the purchased and running has gotten easier. What is my excuse now? The truth is, I have none. I can either go back to how things were a year ago, or I can find a new place for myself. Carve out a new nitch that I fit into.

I have always wanted this space to be a positive place for me. A place to remember all of the good things in my life. Right now, I am not sure what direction I want to take with it. Do I want to keep doing this, or do I want to go ahead and shut it down. Or, do I just change the direction of the place. I'm not sure yet. I am trying to find a focus for myself, and struggling.

As much as I love writing, I don't feel like I portray myself very accurately here. It is a lot of "life updates", but not much substance. There isn't a whole lot of depth. I feel that I have a lot of life experiences that could help make this better, but do I really want to open up that much on the internet? I'm just not sure.

Feels like the first time

I haven't ran in about three weeks. Yikes. Three weeks ago, I got about 1 run in, and then for the past two weeks, nada. With moving, I just pushed it to the side and didn't worry. Well, something kicked into gear last night, because as soon as I got home from work I headed upstairs and changed to go running. I was determined.

I set out thinking that I could do at least 2.5 miles. I mean I was up to 3 when I had stopped running a few weeks ago, and moving is still a physical activity so I should be good, right? Wrong. I synced up my phone with the 3 apps I use when running right now. Pandora (Pit Bull station, for some reason this always works to get my energy up), C25K, and Map my Run. I am technologically high maintenance when I run, what can I say?

Anyways, I head out doing my 5 minute warm up walk. No problem. Even in 85+ degrees, it was easy. I start running. Not too bad, But very quickly, I realize how tight my legs are and I am drenched in sweat in no time. Yes it could be the heat, but this is what I have been running in all summer. In what feels like 5 hours later, my little app finally tells me that I am half way done. What?! Only half way? I feel exhausted. Out of breath and my legs HURT. I push on for a little longer, but eventually have to give up and walk home.

The end result? Not pretty compared to where I was, but still better than where I used to be.

I still want to run a 5k before this year is over, and I think that I have one all picked out. Now, just to get my stamina back up and convince Julian to run it with me. 

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Becoming a homeowner

Well, it is official. Julian and I have moved into our first house. This past weekend was full of lots of hard work, late nights and sore muscles.

Saturday was the big day for us. We woke up bright and early to get the u-haul from the other side of town. I was trying to be practical and ordered the absolute largest sized u-haul I could get my hands on. 26 feet. Getting that into our apartment complex was not an easy feat. That I had nothing to do with. Thankfully, Julian is used to driving large trucks for work so it was easy for him.
Colton and I taking a moving day selfie.
After spending the entire day loading and then unloading the truck (with help from our 12 year old nephew, Colton), I am surprised that we survived with our marriage intact. Julian and I are both very stubborn people who feel that we are always right, so when you put the two of us together in stressful situations, we tend to bicker over little things. Such as the best way to get our king sized mattress down our apartment stairs which are smaller than said mattress.

Luckily, we got a nice little break from all things moving, when our friends Scott and Lydia stopped by with their precious baby, Sawyer. Tucker was quite intrigued with him, but luckily just wanted to see what was going on with the little guy I was carrying around.

Sunday was more moving, and getting some things from my dad's. Julian's mom and step dad stopped by later and helped us organize and place some of our furniture that we couldn't quite figure out, and then we had a lovely pizza dinner with our friends Ryan and Tracy and new neighbor, Jon.

Monday was supposed to be spent unpacking, but I wound up becoming incredibly sick and couldn't do much of anything. Needless to say, I need to learn to give my body a break rather than pushing myself as hard as I did this weekend. I also had yesterday off while Julian headed back to work, so I was able to get some more boxes unpacked and start organizing. We have a long way to go before we are done unpacking, but I can officially say that we are all moved in.
Finally listening to my body and taking a break on Monday. Even with a pile of boxes screaming at me to unpack.
Throughout the process, I have found that I am massively type A, indecisive and I get overwhelmed easily. Not a great combination. Luckily I have Julian who is very much a go with the flow kind of guy, a quick decision maker and seriously good at moving large objects. Now I just need to decide on how I want everything. So far though, I have two favorite spots. My kitchen which I LOVE and our front porch, early in the morning. Our neighborhood is seriously so quiet most of the time and when there is a nice cool breeze, I love just sitting and relaxing.

Friday, August 15, 2014

Things I am Loving

This week has been a bit of a crazy one (I know I keep saying that, but seriously life has been pretty busy lately), but now that it is Friday, I want to focus on some things that I am seriously loving right now.

  • The weather here in Ohio. High 70s/Low 80s all week and into the weekend. 
  • Moving day is tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot wait to finally be in our house. 
  • OSU football starts in two weeks. While I do not wish summer away, I am excited for football season.
  • Julian is going to run a 5K with me! I have been trying to convince him forever to go running with me, and he finally agreed to it! Next week we start running together. Since I am able to do a bit farther than him, I may run with him 3 days a week and then do longer mileage on the other 2. 
  • Tomorrow is going to be perfect moving weather (kind of combining the first two points here). Low 80s and partly cloudy. Bring it. 
  • Today is Friday and pay day! We have a ton of things to buy for the house, so pay days are going to be even more important to us for awhile. Lawn mower, outdoor lights, dehumidifier, ceiling fans, garage door opener, the list is seriously about 14 items long and I just started writing it out this morning. 
Enjoy your weekend!!!

Tuesday, August 12, 2014


WE CLOSE ON OUR HOUSE TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so excited that I cannot even sit still. These next 6 hours at work are going to drag by until I can leave and head to the office where we will get the keys to our very first home (and sign our lives away for the next 30 years, but hey, it's all about perspective).

Being first time home buyers, there are so many thoughts and questions that run through my head on a daily basis. We have had an amazing group of people that we have worked with through this process, and I am so happy with the way that our house turned out. We have also learned a lot. I find myself looking forward to the upcoming months and endless trips to Home Depot and Target. There are so many ideas that I have floating through my head, that I am struggling with nailing down just one.

Thank you to everyone who have left sweet comments on these endless house posts, I really appreciate it :)
This is officially ours in less than 7 hours. Counting down.